I remember being in my late 20’s, single, successful, and really wanting to find someone to share my life with. I went on a lot of dates; met a lot of cool guys, but none of which I could see myself marrying. My prayer to God was that He bring me the man that He had chosen for me. I often wondered why I hadn’t met him yet – where the heck was he? I had my life together, owned a house, had multiple degrees, worked out, was outgoing, and paid my tithes – why was I still single? It was normal for me to tell myself, “hey, relax, be patient, your blessing is coming”. However, sometimes it was easier said than done.
It wasn’t until I met my now husband that I realized that God was working behind the scenes all those years to make us both ready to be in each other’s lives. He had intentionally delayed our meeting until we were individually ready to receive one another, to receive His blessing.
Don’t rush what God is taking time to prepare. Trust His timing.
When I was in middle school, I had a strong desire to learn Spanish. I studied the Spanish language in middle school and high school. When I went to college, I loved the language so much that I decided to major in International Business and Spanish. I took over 40 hours of Spanish credit courses, and when the opportunity came to study abroad during the summer of my senior year, I chose to study in Spain.
Little did I know that while God was working on me by helping me to master the Spanish language, learn about the culture, and acclimate myself to the food; half way around the world there was a guy in Spain that God was also working on. He was igniting the desire in this man’s heart to leave Spain and travel abroad to pursue his passion. God was giving this man the confidence and boldness to leave everything he’d ever known to seek something different. God was opening up doors for this man. Doors that connected him with the people that would inform him about the opportunity to move to the United States. And when he finally moved to the US, God opened the door for this man and two other guys (out of thousands that worked for the company) to come down from New Jersey to Dallas, Texas to coach soccer for 3 months.
It was during his short time in Dallas that my husband and I met…on Tinder, y’all. Yes, Tinder, the “dating” app. How could a Christian meet a spouse on an app that was meant for everything other than marriage? God used an unusual platform to bring the blessing He had been preparing for us to fruition.
During my moments of reflection, I often think about this…
How was it that I met a guy from Spain, a country that I loved? How was it that he met an American woman who spoke his native language and understood his culture? What made us both take the advice of a friend and join Tinder? How was it that we connected during his short stay in Dallas? The questions are endless.
I’ve never once questioned is God’s unfailing love. What I no longer question is why He waited until I was 29 years old for me to meet my husband. I no longer question this because I now know the answer. It’s because His timing is always the right timing. Because I was much more confident, patient, and understanding when I met my husband than I would have been if we would have met years earlier. It’s because I had the opportunity to live alone for 5 years which allowed me to really get to know myself and understand my needs, wants, and desires. It’s because even when I thought that I knew what I wanted, God knew what was best for me.
So, I write this to say to you, “be patient, your blessing is coming”.
Even though it may seem like you’re being left behind or that you’re not making progress or that God has forgotten about you, He hasn’t. Don’t rush what God is taking time to prepare. Trust His timing.